Wisdom for the day

Every once in a while moments of sheer wisdom hit me. I am grateful for them. And today, I'd like to share. As I said earlier in my status update, sometimes it is better to be a part of someone's past than their present. Let me share the thought locomotive that brought me to this place.

I was, as I often do, enjoying the kick ass playlist I put on my profile. One of my favorite songs on this list is a song by The Fray. I identify with it in so many ways. Anyway, one of the lines says "Suddenly I become part of your past, I'm becoming the part that don't last." Anyone who knows me knows that I am not always a live in the now person. I try to be, but I'm not always successful. Another thing about me is that when I love you, no matter your role in my life, I love you with everything I've got. And once you're a part of my past or vice versa, I don't always let go so easy. I don't really let go of anything easily, and never actually completely. I am nostalgic by nature. I need to revisit, relive, and relish. It is beautiful to me on many levels to recall times or people in my life that at one time made me happy.

Today, as I heard that line I was reminded of a few people who are a part of my past, and I a part of theirs. I realized that everyone who is a part of my past is there for a reason. And I am part of theirs for a reason. We share a past much better than a present. And I am thankful for that. I've learned over my life that everyone who comes into your life isn't meant to stay there forever, actually most aren't meant to.

But, like everyone, I will sometimes find myself wishing these ghosts from my past were a part of my now. Today though, I realized that it simply isn't smart to wish that. People evolve, we change. The changes I have gone through in years past make me almost unrecognizable to people who knew me a decade ago. And I personally am proud of each and every change. Because they have made me wiser, stronger, and a better person. But not every change in a person is for the better. A number of my ghosts of Candi's past have changed for the not so better. And those people, I'm thankful to be a part of their past. Because their presents aren't necessarily something I'm interested in existing in.

Also, because I have many, many people on my list who have known me for years and years...which therefore links all of our pasts in some way...I'd like for you to know something. If we share a link, I'm thankful for it no matter what it may be. You've made a mark on my life at some point and hopefully I've made a mark on yours. If you have to wonder whether or not your changes have been for the better, then well I guess you should examine things for yourself.

So I suppose this is about letting go and being thankful for having been let go of. What a strange feeling of relief that brings.